Avoid the Saboteur!

Now we are one week into the year – and I am still feeling strong! Best of all I have lost a kilo! Or in MY terms – I have lost 4 links from the weighty chain!

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Weigh schedule.

I am going to allow myself a pat on the back for avoiding the temptations of TWO big parties this weekend. I stuck to water, avoided all the carbs and still had fun.

Many people weigh themselves on Monday morning  starting the week full of good intentions. The weekdays are the easiest to stay in control, so there may be some weight loss between Mon and Fri. Feeling buoyed by having been good, you may be tempted to relax a bit over the weekend. This negates the week’s effort and your net movement appears static – which is demotivating.

 Tip ; If you weigh yourself once a week—make it first thing on a Friday morning. that way, you’ll see your weekly trend, and you’ll be motivated to behave yourself over the weekend!

 

What is a Saboteur?

To Tell or Not to Tell?

I have started many diets before and so I would fully understand anyone I told reacting “Again?!” Most of our socialising is based around food. Psychologists term it “social facilitation of eating.”

Going out with friends and asking for mineral water and steamed veg is putting yourself out there! Choices need to be made. Your close friends will be supportive and understanding. They will accommodate their plans to help and support you.

Others may not.

David L. Katz, MD, MPH, director of Yale University’s Prevention Research Center and author of The Way to Eat, says sooner or later, you may find yourself in a toxic nutritional environment — almost all dieters do. Some things that people might say or do to throw you off course: 

  • “Fear” for your health. “What’s the matter — you are wasting away. Are you sure you aren’t losing too much too fast?” Or: “Are you sure that diet won’t raise your cholesterol?” 
  • Acting insulted. “You don’t like my pot roast all of a sudden? You’re too good for my cheesecake?” 
  • Mixing up food with love. “You don’t come to dinner — you don’t love me anymore.” 
  • Making you an outsider. Katz says this sometimes happens among co-workers. “You can’t eat Mexican because of your diet, so we will see you after we go out.” 
  • Leaving food around. The big candy dish on the receptionist’s desk in an office of dieters. Or: “Here, one doughnut left, want it?” The leftovers from the office party. Or the spouse who keeps dragging half the chips in the store into the house. 
  • Making up special holiday rules. “It’s your birthday — one piece of cake won’t hurt!” 
  • Volunteering amateur psychoanalysis. “You know, you don’t seem to be as funny since you lost weight.” 
  • Negative information. “You know most people who diet put it all back on – and more”

 

WHY WOULD FRIENDS SABOTAGE? 

For some a dieter represents a reflection on themselves and what perhaps they might think about doing. You force a guilt complex onto them which they need to assuage. Your success is their threat.

You friend starts the diet with you and falls off – your success heightens their feeling of failure.

There is always an excuse not to be on a diet – each celebration – birthday, promotion, exam results, marriage, Friday(!) is a reason to celebrate – but remember – Someone else’s birthday is their celebration – being with them, sharing the occasion does not need to you have cake or champagne to have celebrated.

People who cook measure and associate their food with love. Rejection of food can be a rejection of love.

 

WHAT IS THE ANSWER?!

Practice positive self-talk. Think about the support you offer a friend – do you give yourself that much kindness?! You wouldn’t tell your friend who’s struggling with weight, “You just don’t have the willpower,- you’ll just be fat for the rest of your life!” So, why say negative things to yourself? Practice talking nicely to yourself. Instead of “This is too hard!” think, “I can do this!”

 

Keep going and good luck in week 2!

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